Fighting Fear with Pneumatology

A few months ago, I read a Christian book addressing the fear of death, in the hopes of addressing some of my own fears, not of death, but of dying.

It didn’t.

But my simultaneous study of pneumatology for theology class did.

Pneumatology—fancy for the study of the Holy Spirit—may seem like an odd angle from which to address fear. Usually, we rightly bolster our courage by turning to providence, the goodness of God, the gospel, and the resurrection. We fight our fears with the truth of God’s Word, in which both the action and the tool come by the Holy Spirit.

But pneumatology gives us an even greater understanding of how the Holy Spirit helps us in our daily lives in ways that intersect our fears.

1. Pneumatology tells us we are never alone.

The believer is indwelt with the Holy Spirit (Ezek. 36:27, 1 Cor 3:16, Rom 8:11, and more), which means God’s presence is continually with us. This means we are never alone and never without help.

When my fears rise, one that underlies them all is the question of what would I do if my worst happened? How would I get through? What if the plane crashes and there’s no one for me to embrace as death approaches?

But if the Holy Spirit is with me, I may not have a physical embrace if I’m alone on the plane, but I will not be alone for the moment of death or the trauma following a moment of near-death. The very presence of God will be keeping me company.

2. Pneumatology tells us we have a helper-advocate-comforter.[1]

My questions of “what would I do if-?” also tend to ignore the role of the Holy Spirit. If we change the question to “what would happen if-?” then we find that the question of what we do (beyond simple prudence – Prov. 27:12) is one we don’t have to worry about, because in the moments our fears are realized, not only are we not alone, but we 1) have help available to us from God Himself (John 14:26, 16:13), 2) have someone interceding for us when we’re too scared to know how to pray (Rom. 8:26), and 3) have internal, unchanging peace and comfort in God’s presence (John 14:27, 16:33).

This isn’t a promise that life will be easy—the very fact that we need a helper-advocate-comforter proves this!  Nor is this a promise that His help and presence will always look or feel like we think it should. But it is an assurance that even in the valley of the shadow of death, we need not fear any evil, because God is with us (Psalm 23:4). Additionally, the gift of such a helper speaks to the love and kindness of the Father and Son who send the Spirit, encouraging us to trust God even more.

3. Pneumatology tells us that what we get in the Holy Spirit is only the beginning.  

The Spirit’s presence and help is only the firstfruits, only the foretaste, of what we’ll have in heaven in the full presence of God, when our adoption and redemption are fully realized (Rom. 8:23-25). He’s the seal and guarantee of the imperishable, unfading inheritance we will one day receive (Eph. 1:13-14, 1 Peter 1:4).

This inheritance isn’t that of a comfortable life on earth. It isn’t a promise that our fears won’t be realized. But it is a promise that the something even better coming can’t be taken away from us. And when I think about all that the Spirit does in us and consider that it’s only a foretaste of what’s to come, it blows my mind.

So when my fears rise, I can’t brush them off saying they can’t happen. But I can preach to myself that whatever worst may happen to me here, it can only prepare me for what’s coming (2 Cor. 4:16-17) and result in praise to the God I love (1 Peter 1:7). And if that worst happens to be death, then that death will usher me into an eternal life and a salvation that will be fully revealed in the New Heavens and New Earth (1 Peter 1:4).

And whatever lies between now and then, I have the Holy Spirit and I am never alone and never without help.  


[1] The Greek word used in John 14-16 does not have an exact equivalent in English, and so a number of English words are used to explain it.

Considerations for Emergency Preparedness

I don’t always understand why Pinterest shows me some things. But I was glad when they showed me a pin for emergency kits, because it reminded me that that was something I had done in San Diego and in Japan but had failed to restock when we moved back to the US.
There’s info about emergency kits all over the place, and even ways to order a full kit. But partway through stocking them this time, I looked at the list and thought “this is just too much.” My next thought was “if we really ever need it, though, it would be worth it… but will we ever need it?”

That led to considering what our risks here actually are and what we need to be prepared for – which is where I should have started to begin with. So if you don’t have an emergency kit yet but are thinking of putting one together, here are some considerations.

1. What are the risks in your area?
There are many kinds of natural disasters to worry about, but depending on where you are you may not have to be concerned with them. We don’t really have to worry about tornadoes here (and not just because we live in a basement!) – but if we did, stocking a kit for a tornado vs an earthquake may have some differences. It also depends on what you usually keep on hand. I buy and cook a lot in bulk, so we could easily grab oats, bread, and beans with a moment’s notice. We also have a Berkey water filter that can help with water in emergencies.

This is why I ultimately decided NOT to include things like changes of clothes or toys in our kits (also, there’s a difference between survival and comfort… obviously having games or books for the kids would be nice. But I don’t really care if they’re bored if we’re alive). We are not in areas that have concern for wildfires or tsunamis, the two things I can think of that would require evacuation on a moment’s notice. I may throw a few clothes into our bin during wildfire season just in case because they are close enough to cause air pollution, but we would have notice were it to start coming closer.
All that to say, you may not need everything on the lists where you are.

2. What information do you need to have ready?
I realized after our car accident that I didn’t know off the top of my head what hospitals were in network. In some circumstances, I wouldn’t care – whatever is closest is sometimes necessary. But now I keep a list on my notes app on my phone and a list in my wallet of what hospitals and urgent cares are in network.

Also important is an idea of where to go for different emergencies. Do you have family or friends out of the danger zone you could go to (this will also help determine what to put in your kits)? Do you have their addresses and contact info readily available?

Finally, personal and family information. I have information on my lock screen about an enzyme deficiency and my blood type (here’s how to do that on android). I also have laminated cards in the diaper bag that have a family photo and the girls’ info, that I would secure to them if we evacuated and there was risk of separation. It has age information, blood type, emergency contacts, allergies, etc.

3. What can you do now?
Especially with the longer lists, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by the number of items, finding a place to store things, and the expense of building a kit.
Start with what you have and work on it little by little. Something is better than nothing. I took the $20 leftover at the end of last month’s grocery budget and bought some granola bars, water, tylonel, and cans of food to stock what we didn’t already have from previous kits.
Something is better than nothing.

4. Duties are ours, events are God’s.
The heading there is a Samuel Rutherford quote that is helpful to me in moments of anxiety about safety. YES, we should prepare, childproof, buckle seatbelts, etc., but ultimately our safety is in God’s hands, not in our being extra-prepared or extra-cautious. Nor does it do any good to worry about future events. But it is reassuring to know that we have some preparation (though that’s not where our trust is) so that after the fact we won’t say “if only” (though I’m sure in hindsight there would be things we would have done differently).
So I am thankful that it all rests in God’s hands – and a part of that for us has been random Pinterest posts about emergency kits.

A few links:
*A basic emergency kit list.
*A much more extensive list that feels over the top for our situation, but is VERY comprehensive and helps make sure you’ve thought of everything, even if you don’t put it in or put it on your grab list.
*Emergency preparedness for earthquakes.
*I haven’t looked into “the big one” a whole lot, but this is about a possible large earthquake hitting the West Coast. Because of this we did get a strap for the water heater and I did rearrange or resecure a few things (and may add command strips to what’s hanging above the girls’ beds).

What are your thoughts on emergency kits? Do you or have you had one? Are there items you think necessary that most people forget about? (Or do you think they’re a waste of time? ;))

Additional thoughts, from my father:
Parents need to be reminded of the importance of designating guardians in their will, and thinking beyond “what will family member’s think?” to the raising of their children.

Husbands often maintain bank accounts, handle finances, and are alone aware of essential documents and even employer benefits which would be necessary in the event of their severe illness or death. In the even more tragic or unlikely event of the death of both a husband and wife, others would be left with the handling of the disposition of our property. Out of love for our wives or family/friends left with such a tragic task, wives should be oriented to what would need to be done, and a friend or family member could be left with a “Open in case of Disaster” envelope.
· Document locations: Will, insurance policies, pensions.
· Information on employer benefits, Survivor Benefits, Life Insurance
· Bank accounts, property, and investments
· Passwords for accounts.
· Arrangements for interment (location, means)
· Preferences regarding funeral/memorial
· Family members who may be able to help
Note: disposition of deceased’s property and execution of will can commence only after a death certificate is obtained.

Processing Trauma: Encouragement from Scripture + Helping Children

As a follow-on to my previous post, here are some encouragements from His Word that were helpful to me. It’s so tempting to make our experiences authoritative and interpret them through what we think we know. God wasn’t in control. How could God have let that happen? I don’t understand why God would have let that happen. But we know that His Word, not our experiences, is what is authoritative.

  • Isaiah 40:26. He brings out every star by number every night and not one of them is missing because of the greatness of his might and the strength of His power.
  • Matthew 10:28-30. Don’t fear those that can harm the body without harming the soul. He cares for the sparrows; even more so for you.
  • Psalm 23 – all of it, but especially “though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil.”
  • Psalm 139. His omnipotence and omnipresence, His sovereign loving care over every aspect of my life, and my kids’ lives. He orders and ordains our days. His presence is always with us, and the darkness is light to Him.
    The response to that is a prayer for sanctification, which I do believe is the response to staring your worst in the face and it not happening. It reveals idols, the roots of my anxious thoughts
  • 2 Corinthians 4:16-18. Whether or not there was any damage to them, our bodies are wasting away, but our inner self is being renewed, and these afflictions here are helping that renewal and preparing us for something greater to come.
  • Proverbs 3:25-26. Don’t fear sudden terror… for the Lord will be your confidence.
  • Communion: a reminder that His body was broken, and because His was broken and resurrected to forgive my sin, I don’t have to fear my or their bodies being broken.
  • Thoughts from Isaiah: how not to fear

Trauma and Children
What about kids? Ours were in the car with us during the accident. They asked a LOT of questions in the days and weeks afterwards. That was hard for me because there were times I didn’t want to talk about it at all, much less answer certain questions. But I knew that they needed to process it too, so did my best to answer their questions along the same lines as what I wrote above. I also found that it helped me a lot to say the truths I had been reminding myself of out loud. It was difficult to comfort them without giving them a false assurance. I can’t promise it won’t happen again. We’ve had honest conversations about being ready for death, and have talked about God being our safe place. It was encouraging for me to see their desire to praise God for His protection – right after the accident S wanted to sing the Doxology and “My God is So Big” to do that.

I tried not to expect too much out of them for the first few days afterwards and we had low-key days at home for almost a week.

But we still had one child who would scream and cry upon getting in the car for a few weeks afterwards, and needed lots of physical comfort. We would be sure to rejoice whenever we got home safely, and to point out that we usually don’t get “bumped.” I think in the end the two things that were most helpful for her were that we started letting her climb in the car by herself (letting there be some of her own choice in getting into the car) and that we read a book to her about fear, changing the story so that it was about a car accident (you could probably do this with lots of books, but the only one I know of out there on fear for children is put out by CCEF, called “Zoe’s Hiding Place”).

And an encouragement for anyone dealing with “what if’s.”

Processing Post-Traumatic Stress

Everything I have read about suffering is to prepare you for actual suffering. One of the more recent books on suffering I read was Cameron Cole’s Therefore I Have Hope, which deals with going through your worst. But what about when you look your worst in the face and yet it doesn’t happen? What about when the truck doesn’t stop at the intersection and you think someone will die, yet no one is even significantly injured? Your worst didn’t happen, but it almost did, and the what if’s begin to flood in.

What if the truck had hit further back? What if it hadn’t been his crumple zone? What if he hadn’t slowed down at all?

That happened to us at the end of March, and I was very confused at first, feeling like I didn’t have a category for what happened. “Nothing” happened, and yet something did happen, and it was terrifying and traumatizing because while my worst didn’t happen, I was left with the fears and what if’s of if it had happened. Because that’s really what any post-traumatic stress is, dealing with fears. Not abstract or irrational fears, but fears of real events that are not “out there” but “right here.”

As I slowly processed, four things stood out to me.

  1. Even if there was no physical trauma to your or anyone’s body, you are still recovering from shock and emotional trauma. You will feel strange things that may seem unrelated, like extra grumpiness or fatigue. Listen to your body’s cues for extra rest and eat nourishing foods.
  2. You may be very confused about what you’re feeling and what recovery looks like and how the emotional trauma will affect you long-term, especially if there are no lasting physical effects. This processing does need to happen, but I also found that some of the most confusing and strong emotions calmed down as I rested, though this will vary a lot depending on the severity of the trauma.
  3. With what I did actively process, my thoughts focused on:
    1. What-if’s: A few days after the accident, my dad wrote, “The post-event emotional and mental stress considering the what-ifs is many times greater… This is normal and not sinful or selfish, even though it interrupt your prayer, study, etc.  These intense distractions are God’s interruption inviting you to see in a new – but not fatalistic – way, that “in him we live and move and have our being.” What-if’s will flood your mind, and to a degree those need to be processed (more in a minute on that), but you also need to remind yourself of what actually did and didn’t happen. If xyz had happened, then God would be equipping you to deal with it. But it didn’t happen. The amount of post-traumatic stress you have is also dependent largely on how you interpret the event. In our case, it was very helpful for me to talk about it at length with Ezra and assess what actually DID happen, and even what realistically MIGHT have happened, so I could have a proper interpretation of the events.
    2. Moving forward: Except in rare circumstances, you WILL have to get back in the car, go through that same intersection again, etc. Waiting too long to do so can actually make the post-traumatic stress worse. I waited a few days and then drove by myself just around town, and then slowly built up to going towards where the accident was and driving with the kids in the car. It was hard and scary (and some things about driving are still very scary). In those moments, I have to focus on truths about God’s sovereign, loving care. It can also be helpful to learn about how cars are designed to protect you, but that can’t be the truth you put your hope in. I am more cautious on the road, especially at intersections, but have to remind myself that at times being too cautious can be dangerous as well. Those moments don’t just happen in the car, although that is where they happen the most. Other things (like my glasses being bumped off of my face or the sound of the Communion cracker at church being broken) can remind me of the event and surface fearful thoughts.
  4. For the Christian, the what-if’s that surface bring up many questions of His sovereignty. “He protected us, but what if He hadn’t?” Books like Cole’s “Therefore I Have Hope” and Joni Eareckson Tada’s “When God Weeps” are helpful for more extensive theology dealing with questions like this, but here are a few shorter things that have helped me trust God with the fragility of life.
    1. It’s not a truth we like to remember, but we do need to recall that because of our sin, we totally deserve whatever could have happened. Every single breath each one of us breathes is a gift from Him. This shouldn’t lead to us to live in terror, “then I always need to be scared I might die!” but to remember that He sustains you every single minute. I’ve been in cars my whole life yet this is the only significant accident I’ve ever been in.
    2. The fears that surface with trauma can point to our deepest loves. While rejoicing that no one was even injured, the question on my mind was often “What if He hadn’t, and Ezra or one of the girls had died?” I had to assess whether God or my family was the greatest object of my affections. Though hugs and kisses and snuggles were a great comfort afterwards, God had to be my greatest comfort. Trauma can wake us up to potential idols, and the reorienting of our hearts that happens afterwards is one way God can use it for good.
    3. The fear of losing your family doesn’t always mean it is an idol, but that doesn’t mean it would be easy in any way. Truth also doesn’t make it “easy” but can help us to trust. Echoing Cole’s book again (seriously, read it!) – even if the worst happens for believers, the sorrowing would have resurrection hope, and would receive His care in the midst of it (Psa. 34:18). In the days afterwards (and still, sometimes) in moments of fear, I would remind myself: If anything happens to me, He will take care of them. If anything happens to them, He will take care of me – even if there is uncertainty about a child’s salvation.
    4. Trauma may reveal what we love the most, and it may also reveal where we put our trust. I realized this while researching car seats to replace the ones that were in the accident. It’s natural for parents to want the safest car seat for their kids – but I became obsessed with finding THE top car seat. My trust needs to be in GOD, not car seats, crumple zones, or routes to or from church. Safety doesn’t lie in those things, it is in God alone (Hosea 13:4b). That doesn’t mean we don’t follow save driving practices (including proper car seats!) but it does mean those aren’t what ultimately save or protect us. This is why Stonewall Jackson could be fearless in battle: he knew safety wasn’t in circumstances, but that he would only die or be injured if it was God’s time for that.
    5. It feels random when it happens, but in the days afterwards I started to piece together details that gave me comfort it was NOT random. Not a sparrow falls to the ground without His knowing (Matt 10:28-30), and our lives are under that same care. Talking to fewer people after church than usual meant we left sooner, how long it took us to get gas, to turn out of the gas station, etc. Our being at that intersection at that time was not random. Nor was it random that the angle of the impact didn’t lead to abdominal pressure or danger to the baby.

Modern-Day Heroes

It’s hard to move 19 months after you moved to a place. It’s even harder when that place is where you made your first home as a married couple, walked through your first pregnancy, and began the journey of parenthood – all supported and surrounded by loving people, who loved you when they barely knew you and didn’t relent in their loving when you were getting ready to leave.
It’s also hard to leave the first friends your baby had – the one that looks like her polar opposite with the ‘fro and chocolate skin, the one who handed down head bands and tries to play with her during church, the one people asked if they were twins – the blue-eyed fair-skinned blonde fall-babies of GBC.
As I think about leaving behind yet another place and another set of friends, I’m reminded yet again of what Eleven said in Doctor Who:
“We all change. When you think about it, we’re all different people all through our lives, and that’s okay, that’s good, you gotta keep moving, so long as you remember all the people that you used to be. I will not forget one line of this. Not one day. I swear. I will always remember when the Doctor was me.”
We may be leaving our home here, but we won’t ever forget the people we love here and everywhere. It’s hard to leave, but it’s easier when you remember that leaving doesn’t mean forgetting and starting life in a new place and enjoying it doesn’t negate how wonderful where you were before was.

As I look back on the last year and a half and the people we have had the privilege of knowing here, especially at church, I have thought a lot about the people who have taught me so much by their lives, from when I was a child through to today.
I keep thinking of a stanza from the Getty’s “O Church Arise” –
“As saints of old still line the way,
Retelling triumphs of His grace,
We hear their calls and hunger for the day
When, with Christ, we stand in glory.”

Some of those people I’m not in contact with much any more and we’ve grown apart. Others I have sporadic contact with but it’s the kind of friendship that we can just pick up where we left off. Most of the ones I write about below I don’t know that well but the way they live inspires me.
In “A Sacred Sorrow” Michael Card wrote,
“The deep things of the faith we learn less by didactic principle and more through people of faith and their simple stories. After all, the gospel is not a systematic/theological presentation to which we give assent or not in order to become “believers.” No, it is a story, which we enter into even as it enters into us. We, iint eh most real and literal sense, become characters in this ongoing incarnating of truth and of the gospel. Its story continues to be told in and through us, and along the way we begin to understand.
“I believe the same kind of incarnational process is at work in understanding lament. Eventually, when we are struggling to explain a difficult topic like prayer, faith, or perhaps servanthood, we resort to naming a person who incarnates that ideal. … When we seek to understand discipleship, we think of someone like Deitrich Bonhoeffer, not because of his book on the subject, but because his life and death validated everything he spoke about in his writings.”

I’ve found that the people I want to learn from most don’t have lessons they can teach you very well. The things I respect and love and want to emulate in them aren’t usually things they can tell you. They’re often lessons learned through trial. These people are often ships battered by many storms, yet coming out triumphant through the guidance of Christ.
There’s the woman at church who lost her husband to cancer soon after they remarried after they had divorced, and said “grieve, but don’t be downcast.” (Among so much other wisdom I can’t remember).
And another who shared wisdom on marriage (that also applies to parenting) – “He’s not irritating, I’m irritable.”
And the mother who commented that she had nothing to share about parenting, then said – “Jesus, help me! That’s my advice.”
And the one who stayed with her unbelieving husband, holding on through difficult times, and then God changed his heart.
And Amanda, who died of cancer a year ago, whose hope of heaven and joy in Christ was so beautiful to see as she shared her struggles with the church.
My cousin, Kristen, hanging on to life and finding joy in it through Christ despite long-term health issues.
My mother-in-love, who had to take care of new mothers just hours after giving birth to her fourth, braved homes with rats and lands with many poisonous snakes, and is such a wonderful example of godly marriage and parenting (as are my own mother and Mrs. C!).
Mrs. Y, who opened her home to me and gave of her time to let me come in and learn from her, the way they disciplined their kids with gospel, her joy in motherhood, openness in sharing things with me and letting me open up, choosing marriage and motherhood above a career.
The M’s – Mr. M who takes such care of his wife and has taught their sons to do the same, and in it all their use of their home for hospitality and evangelism. Mrs. M who digs down to the root of the issue and turns it so you can see it in the perspective of Christ, who so openly and clearly loves her husband, who has such a great strength from being steeled -yet also softened – in fire of trials where she had to let go and let the Lord work, and trust Him.

There’s M, who my dad discipled and endured persecution by co-workers for his new-found faith.
And my friends who lived in an Arab country filled with turmoil, staying for years after most others left even though it meant being “stuck” there and knowing every day could be their last. They were faithful during the trials, hard though days are with little water, gas, or electricity. These things they gave up and suffered for the gospel – because Christ and the souls of the lost Brothers are worth those hardships.
And two others who the world calls our enemies but who counted the cost yet had great joy in Him as their satisfaction and certainty in their faith in their Lord, a willingness to give their lives if necessary.
And another whose testimony I heard before I met him, how God saved him from a wild lifestyle. I met him and was immediately amazed at his humility, boldness, and intentionality. His favorite question to ask people is “What are you reading right now?” and he uses that to channel conversations to eternal things. He’s ready to be a martyr. He’s ‘planning’ on putting his life on the line in a place where Christianity is unknown – because he loves Christ and His glory so much more than life.

I think it’s people like this Hebrews has in mind when it says the world was not worthy of them.
What a privilege it has been to know each and every one of these, and many more, and some even greater that I just don’t have the words for because they’ve taught me so much (like our pastor’s wife, and my parents, and the C’s).
I’m excited to see who we meet in all of the places we live in the future and how God uses them in our lives.

“I saw what I saw and I can’t forget it
I heard what I heard and I can’t go back
I know what I know and I can’t deny it

Something on the road
Cut me to the soul

Your pain has changed me
Your dream inspires
Your face, a memory
Your hope, a fire

Your courage asks me
What I’m afraid of
And what I know of love
And what I know of God.”
– I Saw What I Saw – Sara Groves

Fear: Summarized

The last few months have been relatively free of struggles with fear, for which I’m very thankful. I was thinking about why this might be and noted a few key things I’ve learned about fear.

1. For me, fear has two roots: idolatry and lack of trust in God. When I put too much weight in the gifts He’s given me here, I hold them too tightly and anything that would make me lose them makes me very afraid. Likewise, when I forget who God is, specifically His desire to do me good, His power to protect me, and His sovereignty over all events.

2. Trust means that you know God has you in a certain place at that certain time, so anything that happens is not without His allowance.

3. Keeping your mind filled with good will keep it from being filled with fear. This is demonstrated in Philippians 4:6 (Do not be anxious about anything but in everything through prayer and supplication let your requests be made known to God, and the peace of God… will guard your hearts and minds) and Isaiah 26:3 (You will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You). Some of this is very specifically meditating on God and His word, but some of it is also just not being idle – which is the big reason I think I’ve struggled less with fear since S was born – I have much less time to think about things that might happen! And just thinking about what MIGHT happen doesn’t bring the grace of God that He will give us if those things actually DO happen – those things are not among the “true” things that we are supposed to think on (Philippians 4:8).

4. Summarizing it all: BEHOLD YOUR GOD. This is why Isaiah 40 is such a big help to me when I’m afraid – it clearly shows so many of His attributes in a way that comforts immensely because it shows His involvement in the details of our lives.

The more I think about it, the more I realize that these things don’t only fight fear, but also most of the struggles we may have in life: they’ve helped with S’s reflux and being overwhelmed by long lists of things that have due dates (like taxes and preparation for our move).

A Thought: Doubt & Fear

“A day will come when He is so near to us, all our doubt, unbelief, and sin will be burned away by the light of His presence.” – Elyse Fitzpatrick, “Because He Loves Me”

Fear hearkens back to the fall, since its root is in doubting God – is God really good, really sovereign, is what’s to come really better? Did God really say…?

Psalm 3 – He can sleep in peace because He knows who God is and doesn’t listen to those who want him to doubt.

On Fear, Again.

Over the past six years, I’ve had recurring struggles with fear, starting when we went to India for a missions trip (or perhaps earlier, when we thought I had appendicitis) and continuing on today, with many in between.
The past few years I’ve resolved not to fear in the coming year, but it always continued. I always felt like there was a piece missing, some ammunition I didn’t have and therefore couldn’t fight properly.

I don’t think the fear always stemmed from the same root, but in recent years I began to see a trend: I usually struggled the most with fear when life was the most rich and thus I was afraid of losing the people I loved so much and the life that was so good. It helped to know more of WHY I have seasons of being more fearful. But even still, I couldn’t really fight it apart from frequently reminding myself that God was good and sovereign, which assuaged the fear but didn’t take it away.

Whenever there was discussion of fear in sermons and such, it was always about fear of death, and I never connected with that. The only thing I thought I was afraid of concerning death was the dying itself, and that only if it was going to hurt.
I did, however, resonate with Valjean’s statement at the end of Victor Hugo’s Les Miserables, “It is nothing to die; it is frightful not to live.” It put into words fear stemming from not wanting to lose those I love.
I always denied that I had any fear of death, but the other day I got the last piece to the puzzle, the ammunition to fight. When fear comes from putting too much love in the gifts He’s given, taking my gaze off of heaven and the future being better, then I AM fearing death. I am fearing that what comes next won’t be better, fearing the unknown of what it will be like.

But rather than the realization that I do fear death causing me to be more afraid or distraught, it brought HOPE, because now I know what to do with it. Now I know how that fear can be transformed by Him.
I knew to fight fear by reminding myself of His love and sovereignty – that whatever happened I could trust Him, and that He had put us in certain places at certain times.
But that only helped so much, because of the piece that was still missing.

What is that piece?
I think fearing death the way I do can be transformed – not just held off for a time, but really transformed into joy and hope – in Christ and His death. In Hebrews 2 it says that through His death He freed us from fear of death, which is lifelong slavery (true!).

But how does His death free us?
His death and resurrection tell us who God is (love + sovereignty at work in His children’s lives, among other things), and that we don’t have to fear judgement and hell because Christ was punished in our stead – but it tells us more than that.
It tells us that because He destroyed death, what’s coming is abundant life, more abundant than here, which is why we don’t have to fear the leaving behind and the changes that happen in life and death. It tells me, too, that there’s forgiveness for the idolatry of loving His gifts too much and hope to overcome the fear of death.

It seems so simple when I put it all into words, but somehow I’d missed it until yesterday.
I’m thankful for His revealing it to me, and it’s even more exciting that it comes on the brink of a new year. I’m curious to how it will change the struggle with fear in the future, although it also brings up a new struggle: how do you balance not clinging to life here but still enjoying it and loving the people most dear to you that you don’t want to lose?

I’ll probably post more on 2015 and what we hope it holds for us soon, but wanted to close out 2014 with those thoughts.
I HAVE struggled often with fear in this last year, but God has always shown Himself faithful, whether in safe travels, S’s birth, or anything else we faced in 2014.
Happy New Year!

Thoughts from Isaiah: How Not to Fear

Why is my life so safe that all I worry about is where to get organic food while others flee for their lives or have no food?
Help us know how to help them and how to glorify you in our ease.

In affliction we grow, and spiritual life is dull when there is no struggle.
Ease is not always blessing.

Isaiah 11. His holy mountain is SAFE. Why is it safe?
Because the earth is full of the knowledge of Him and so all the earth changes because we know and see Him.

Isaiah 35:4.
Say to those who have an anxious heart, “Be Strong! Fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God.
He will come & save you.”

Isaiah 36.
Fear says “God can’t handle this.” We fear when we doubt God, just as my fear in wildfires, or flying, or childbirth or any unknown doubts His power, goodness, and sovereignty.

Isaiah 41:14-16.
We are worms.
But when He works in us, we do mighty things.

The hardest thing about pregnancy is coming face to face with so many unknowns out of your control.
And yet every single detail is already known by Him.
And He knows how to prepare us and get us through.

YOU are in control and I know I can trust You – who has brought this about, who gives life and health, who cares for my good, who is for our marriage, who is there in the valley, even in death, who knows each star by name and numbers the hairs on my head, who knows the way He is leading me on, who has Heard my prayers, who balances might and tenderness, who does not crush a bruised reed, who has given me Ezra to help in this.
Hope in God and fear not anything that is frightening. FEARLESS not because of me but because of who I have with me.

Isaiah 51:8.
Fear not the reproach of men,
Be not dismayed at their revilings.
For the moth will eat them up like a garment,
but My Righteousness will be forever and My Salvation to all generations.
HE WINS, even against ISIS.
I’m having a hard time doing anything “normal” when I’m thinking about all the suffering “over there” and how different our lives are here… and how “unfair” it is, and how much I want “those guys gone.” And I was reading in Isaiah and it’s incredibly clear there that no matter what… OUR GOD WINS.

I don’t want to not fear because circumstances aren’t scary.
I want to not fear because I hope in God.

Isaiah 51:12.
I, I am He who comforts you.
Who are you, that you are afraid of man who dies, and have forgotten the Lord, your maker, who stretched out the heavens?

We fear because we forget Him.

Go to His Word, not the news or the internet to know what to do.
How can we not have some fear? ISIS is ruthless, frightening. Unknowns are scary. But what does Isaiah prove?
Our God reigns.
The wicked will be judged.
He cares for His people.
His salvation is forever.
He is powerful and He is the one in control.

Why should I fear when the one who cares enough to call out each star every night, who is powerful enough to bring down the wicked, who is big enough that the heavens are but a hands’ breadth, who knows enough that my way and days are not hidden from Him – why should I fear when it is this God who is my shepherd, who loves me and gave Himself for me and is with me always?
I am a child of the Most High & I am not afraid.

Behold

BEHOLD.
with footnotes
{sorry for the poor formatting. I couldn’t get it to work with footnotes otherwise}

BEHOLD.

Canto I. The Dust of His Feet

“Who delights in the honest cry of my broken heart?
Who smiles as I wonder at the beauty of the earth?
Who understands me to the fullest extent and wants
nothing more than for me to be His bride?”
              – S.C.
Stop,

Consider

The wondrous works of God.[1]
Look above –

Billows of white,

Wisps and piles of cotton,

Scattered layers and towers,
Shipless sails in the heavens,

Rolling black thunderheads,

Stretched out across the sky.

They move at His command
Declare His presence[2]

Led Israel in the desert

Herald His coming

Veil His chariot[3]

Brought for good or ill[4]

Whether they come with rain

Or fly away like the birds
They await His call.

Can anyone understand

How He spreads the clouds,[5]

How His pavilion thunders?[6]
They hide His face[7]

From the sinner,

Lest he die

In the day of judgment.

He sends them whither He wills
Makes them rise from the ends of the earth[8]
Glimpses of glory
Thrill the soul because of their Maker
Beauty always different

Changing every moment –

The dust from His feet[9]

Until the trump resounds

And His own rise to meet Him[10]

In cloud.

 

Canto II. The Span of His Hand

 

“Who has measured the stars in the span of His hands
Yet cradled His lamb to His chest?
Who has woven the world in brilliant harmony
Yet quieted my heart in the darkest night?”

–          E.P.

The fourth day of the world

He made the lights

To rule the day

To rule the night

Then three small words,

As if

It hardly mattered:
“And the stars.”[11]
He numbered them.[12]

At the Word[13]
They came into being

Flung into their places

Recorded as a small detail

In the colossal hand of God.

And they sang
They praised His name[14],
Their Maker.

The morning stars sang together[15]

Declared the glory of God.[16]

The heavens outdo those in His image

Who need prompting

to praise.

In His love
He set them there
For signs
For seasons
For days

And years[17]

Because His steadfast love

Endures forever[18]
He gave these gifts

This cosmic beauty

Orion as He walks the sky
Cygnus as it soars above the dolphin
The dippers as they point the way
Scorpio, beside the moon
Faintly seen, the gleaming way

Milky as it weaves its path
across the velvety richness

That is the sky
Deep and dark
flecked with silver
domed above
Soul hushed.

In His might

He calls out each one by name
Like sheep[19]

Each night,

Whether the eye beholds

Or whether they are veiled

He brings them out

And they are there,

Because He is strong in power.[20]

He keeps them in their paths

So predictable

Yet without Him
Would be chaos.[21]

The night without stars

Is the dark night of the soul[22]

The questioning paradox

How can the God who brings this

Be good?

And where is the lovingkindness

Of Love? [23]

Asking, it clings to Him

Audacious in its wond’ring
Knowing His unthwarted purpose

His faithfulness[24]

As long as the sun shall rise.[25]
As we see Him
The darkness fades.[26]

So lift up your eyes and see

Who created these? [27]

Seek the One

Let not their beauty

Rob worship from their Maker.[28]

The gods of the Nations –
Worthless, idols.
The LORD –
He made the heavens.[29]

The lights of the night

A comfort to the weary soul
For the ones who know

their Maker carries them

For the ones who know
that this vast expanse

That modern man cannot comprehend

Is but the space between His fingers –

A single span

Of His hand[30]

 

Canto III. The Voice of Many Waters

 

“You are the all-knowing God who has had

a plan for my life from before the foundations

of the world.”

–          H.P.

Who is like You,

O Lord, among the Gods?[31]

Whose voice is like the thunder[32]

And the sound of many waters?[33]

Roaring, swelling, mounting –

Whose hands are covered

With the lightening

And who commands it to strike?

Its crashes declare His presence.
When He speaks
There is tumult in the heavens

And yet He also whispers
in a still small voice[34]

For Him the mist rises from the earth

And the winds leave their storehouse.[35]

To whom then
will you liken God?
Or to what will you compare Him?[36]

The Nations, the mighty nations
The many peoples
He plants and tears down
They are but a drop in the bucket
Only dust on the scales
They are nothing to Him
Even less than nothing –
How can less than nothing be?

Uncomprehendable,
this One.

And yet
To a God so mighty –
Who stretches out the heavens[37]
And has measured the waters

And weighed the mountains
To whom none have shown counsel  [38]

Who moves the hearts of men

And gives them their every breath –
He is everlasting
Creator of the ends of the earth
He does not faint

Or grow weary [39]
He established the world

By His wisdom – [40]

Then perhaps

To Him

There could be

A less than nothing.

 

Canto IV. The Lion and the Lamb

 

“The God who comforts and makes Himself known

To His children. He knows exactly how to take care of each need

Of His children, no matter how great…”

–          M.L.

Who is the everlasting friend, who always listens

And never forgets? Who is the one who keeps His

Promises – who never changes? He is the one to

Stand by and guard you – the one who sees your

Sadness and laughs with your joy.”

–          O.M.

 

Oh, herald of good news –

Get up to a mountain

And declare to the cities

This God.

Let all hear and see –

Behold your God! [41]

This God who is

Both lion and lamb.

The One who is higher than the stars[42]

Lights that pass away[43]

They are so great so

Is not He who remains forever

Even greater?

And forever –

He changes not.

This God to behold

What is seen in Him

Will not change

From here until

Beyond eternity.

The waters would overwhelm

The stars, they would burn
Even the cloud would suffocate us.

And the Almighty God

Would also be our death

If beheld too close.

And yet

It is that nearness

That man longs for –
Eternity[44]

To know God.[45]

The Lamb
He offered Himself

Death in our place

Our sins on His back

A gift of grace

Now we behold

No curtain bars the way[46]

No cloud obscures the sight[47]
iniquity pardoned[48]

Face-to-face at last will be[49]

His children

Forever with Him.

This God of power –

Who commands the clouds

And the waves of the sea,

The Maker of heaven and earth –

Whose name alone is a strong tower[50]
His power in just one word.
He is our help[51]

He knows the griefs

Has born the sorrows[52]

The aching heart

Is comforted

With tenderness. [53]

He understands

The complex inner workings

Of the mind –
He knows His child

Better than she knows herself.[54]

It is this Lord who is my shepherd.[55]

These ones who are but grass[56]

Whose bodies fade away

The Everlasting carries

In His bosom[57]

The Almighty
Increasing strength

When we are faint.[58]
He cares

And loves

Even us.

He cares for the sparrows[59]

Those in His image,

Worth so much more
The Lion strong enough to protect

Gently leads His lambs[60]

Tenderly, for He is Lamb like us

And He was broken, too.

Canto V. The Bridegroom

 

“Your greatest lover, that you can rely on.
Your Father, that will care for you.

He loves you more than a fish needs the water

And more than birds crave the berries.

His love is enough.”

–          C.H.

The won’dring Psalmist wrote

Considering the heavens –

“What is man that You are mindful of Him?”[61]

For compared to the skies,

Men are small and ugly.

And yet this God

Who marked off the boundless heavens

With only His hand

Came down

He took brokenness

And made it whole.

Brought meaning.

Gave life.

The world not left to herself

He married Himself to her
In His covenant faithfulness[62]
She became His[63]

Though she looked elsewhere[64]

He never has.

He was here
And we esteemed Him not

Too busy with the gifts He gave

To see Him

Even though it is He

Who holds the world together,

It is He

We ignore.[65]

He pursues

In her unfaithfulness

He desires

To know this sinner

To eat with her

To overflow her cup

To suffer for her

To die for

To love

To marry

To bring her to His Father.

The path she takes

The path I take

Though beyond today is unknown

Though beset with falling short

Though full of question and fear

Is never hidden from His sight[66]

The future is marked out like a path

A path from which none shall ever stray.[67]

This God who made the clouds

Who calls out the stars –

Somehow
He is fairer than even they –

Who is gentle and intimate

with His lambs –

it cannot be understood,

why such a Great One would do so

for such a wretch as I –

Has set out this path
He will clear the rubble

And guide the way

And bring to rejoicing

When the path is hard

The way unfathomable

The future uncertain –

It is well

With my soul.[68]

In the darkness

Of the soul

How big is your God?

He is greater

Than the night.

Even when

The sky is bare

And lonely –

He is there,

And here.
He hems me in
His presence, all around[69]

His power

His might

His love

His tenderness

Ever Near

To behold

Our God

Even if we

Are broken.

And then –

He calls

The Bridegroom

For the Bride

She comes

Then face-to-face

Beholds.


[1] Job 37:14

[2] Revelation 1:7, 14:14; Daniel 7:13;  and throughout the Bible, clouds often have to do with His coming.

[3] Psalm 104:3

[4] Isaiah 5:6

[5] Psalm 147:8

[6] Job 36:26-30

[7] Psalm 97:2

[8] Psalm 135:7

[9] Nahum 1:3

[10] 1 Thessalonians 4:17

[11] Genesis 1:16

[12] Psalm 147:3-4. I don’t think it’s random that binding up the brokenhearted and His knowledge and power displayed in the stars are together.

[13] John 1:1

[14] Psalm 148:3

[15] Job 38:7

[16] Psalm 19:1

[17] Genesis 1:14

[18] Psalm 136:6-9

[19] A.W. Tozer, “What is the Supreme Sin of a Profane Society?”

[20] Isaiah 40:26

[21] Colossians 1:16-17

[22] Job 3:6-9

[23] Thought taken from “A Sacred Sorrow,” by Michael Card

[24] Jeremiah 31:35

[25] Job 19:25-27

[26] 1 Kings 19 – God doesn’t answer Elijah’s problem but shows him Himself.

[27] Isaiah 40:26

[28] Deuteronomy 4:19-20

[29] Psalm 96:5

[30] Isaiah 40:12

[31] Exodus 15:11

[32] Job 40:9

[33] Ezekiel 43:2

[34] 1 Kings 19:11-13

[35] Jeremiah 10:13

[36] Isaiah 40:18

[37] Isaiah 40:22

[38] Isaiah 40:12-14

[39] Isaiah 40:28-29

[40] Jeremiah 10:12

[41] Isaiah 40:9-10

[42] Job 22:12

[43] Mark 13:25

[44] Quote C.S. Lewis: “If I find in myself a desire that this world cannot fulfill, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”

[45] John 17:3

[46] Hebrews 6:19-20, Exodus 26:33,  Matthew 20:50-51

[47] Psalm 18:11, 97:2

[48] Isaiah 40:2

[49] 1 Corinthians 13:12

[50] Proverbs 18:10

[51] Psalm 121, Psalm 124:8

[52] Isaiah 53:3

[53] Isaiah 40:2

[54] Paraphrased Olivia Bradstreet

[55] Psalm 23:1

[56] Isaiah 40:7-8

[57] Isaiah 40:11

[58] Isaiah 40:29

[59] Matthew 10:29-31

[60] Isaiah 40:11

[61] Psalm 8:3-4

[62] Phrasing taken from Dr. Benjamin Shute

[63] Ezekiel 16:8

[64] Ezekiel 16:15

[65] John 1:10

[66] Isaiah 40:27, Job 23:10

[67] Phrase from Olivia Jeavons

[68] Horatio Spafford, reflecting on how even in devastation, because Christ has borne our sin, it is well with our souls.

[69] Psalm 139:5